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The Three Keys to Happiness 在塔亚普拉寻找获得幸福的三把钥匙

Thanyapura's Definition of a Meaningful Life

By Philipp Graf von Hardenberg, Executive Chairman & President

Regardless of nationality, race, culture or religion, every human being wishes to be happy! I have never been challenged with this statement, and I have lived in Germany, Switzerland, England, America, Australia, and Thailand in the past. Since December of last year I am living in China, and are making the same experience here.

“ 不分国籍、种族、文化或者宗教,每个人都希望幸福!”

曾经生活在德国、瑞士、英国、美国、澳大利亚和泰国,现在又来到中国的THANYAPURA塔亚普拉总裁兼首席执行官Philipp Hardenberg的这番说法,无论走到哪,都没有人提出过异议。

But I fear, that we humans have shifted our priorities if we think about what ‘Happiness’ is really all about. In many conversations and job interviews, when I ask young people what happiness means for them, the majority talk about money and prosperity, their social status and having power, about houses, cars or other commercial items. And I must agree, all of these might be nice to have, but are they critical for achieving happiness? Imagine that you would be sick, that you would have an accident and are handicapped, you have depressions or that you only have a short time to live – which of the above are really important to you.

 

Philipp坦言:在问及人们什么是幸福时,我很担心大家改变了优先级,在多次谈话和面试中,我问年轻人幸福是什么的时候,他们提及的多是金钱、权力、社会地位或是房子车子等物质条件。

诚然,这些的确会给人带来幸福,但它们却并不是至关重要的。人生短短几个秋,明天和意外不一定哪个先来,想象一下,人会生病、会出事故、会残疾、会抑郁,甚至只有很短的时间活着……那么,金钱和地位真的是最重要吗?

Influenced by social media, by ongoing ideas of other people, seduced by smart advertising and marketing, being inundated by unrealistic role models who are always beautiful, young and successful, we got totally confused what is really important to us.   

Through all of the above, we have lower and lower sensitivity about the real ingredients of our personal happiness and higher and higher desires for economic wealth. Oscar Wilde said that there are only two tragedies in life: ‘One is not getting what you want, the other one is getting what you want’. Desire is hard to fill, and if fulfilled, trigger new and higher desires – an ongoing hunt for more and better and definitely not the door to your genuine happiness.

如今受社交媒体和网红的影响,铺天盖地的广告和营销诱惑着人们,美丽的、年轻的、看似成功却不切实际的榜样淹没了大家的视野,我们越来越搞不懂对于我们来说真正的幸福是什么?人们在快速旋转的生活和追求中越来越迷茫,对物质的追求越来越高,对幸福的敏感度却越来越低。

奥斯卡•王尔德说过,人生只有两个悲剧:一个是没有得到你想要的,另外一个是得到了你想要的。什么是人,欲望满身,实现了一个欲望,就会有更多更高的欲望,想要找更多更好的东西,但这不会是通往幸福的那扇门。

 

I learned a lot about the real meaning of happiness, when I went three weeks after the devastating Tsunami to Thailand in January 2005, where I volunteered and helped the people in the destroyed villages. Then and there I decided to establish an orphanage, a kindergarten and a school for the children of the poorest of the poor.

过往的经历让Philipp学到了很多关于幸福的真正意义。2005年1月,在泰国遭受了毁灭性的苏纳米海啸后的三周,Philipp自发去到那里当志愿者,帮助了那些家园被摧毁的人们,并且,他为穷苦人家的孩子们建立了孤儿院、幼儿园和学校。

Sometimes on weekends I went to Phuket, and while spending my time with the poor people in the county side and the very rich in their huge villas or on their magnificent boats, I realized what happiness is all about: The wealthy people were always busy and stressed taking care of all their houses, the maintenance of their boats, with all the social life dinner parties and jetting around the world. They were not really enjoying what they have, always desiring bigger houses or faster boats.

周末的时候,Philipp会去普吉岛,在那里有很多住着别墅、开着奢华游艇的富人们,但有钱却并不代表快乐。他们总是很忙,紧张地维护着自己已有的财富,参加各种社交晚宴,在世界各地飞来飞去,欲望带来的压力,让他们无暇真正享受自己拥有的一切,总是被欲望催促着奔跑在无止尽的路上,总想要更大的房子,更快更奢华的游艇。

The poor people often struggled to have enough food on the table or could not manage to bring their children to the next school not having enough money for the gasoline for the motorbike or they couldn’t afford the school uniform, These people were happier: They smiled more often, cared for each other, they were content and thankful with what they had.

虽然穷人们仍不知道能否买得起下一箱汽油或是孩子的校服,甚至仍在为如何填饱肚子,如何让孩子继续学业而犯愁,但他们却更幸福地微笑,互相关心,对他们所拥有的感到满足和感激。

That’s when I realized that materialistic belongings and money are not equal to happiness, they are only one part of it but not even the most important. Having spent a lot of time with very wise people, with people in all different life situations, together with my friends and colleagues at Thanyapura, we came to the conclusion, that ‘Happiness’ has three main domains: A Healthy Body – A Balanced Mind – A Good Heart

Philipp由此意识到物质并不等于幸福,它们的确是幸福的一部分,但绝不是最重要的。他花了很多时间与生活在不同环境中的非常有智慧的人们、朋友们以及THANYAPURA塔亚普拉的同事们得出这样的结论:幸福有三把钥匙:健康的身体、平衡的心灵,以及正念。

A Healthy Body

The Chinese government is focusing more and more about health and well-being. In March 2021, President Xi said during a visit to the Shaxian General Hospital in Shaxian District: “Health is the primary indicator of people’s happiness”.

中国政府越来越注重健康和幸福。2021年3月,习近平总书记在访问沙县总医院时指示:“健康是人们幸福的主要指标。”

A healthy body means a balanced nutrition and regular exercise. Our for-fathers didn’t need to really focus on that too much. They ate dominantly plant-based food and their exercise was producing this food for themselves and their farm animals on their fields. They went hunting or walked from village to village to sell their merchandise – daily hard work and exercise without machines and cars. Today, many of us eat meat three times a day as it is often cheaper then vegetables, consume mostly pre-prepared food loaded with preservatives and chemicals. We drink sweet soft drinks and artificial juices or alcoholic beverages. We sit in cars, on motorbikes or in busses, our work is often sitting again in front of computers for nine hours a day. And if we don’t feel well, we ask doctors to give us medication instead of thinking to change our lifestyle.

健康的身体意味着均衡的营养和有规律的锻炼。我们的父辈们不需要把太多精力放在这上面,因为他们吃植物为主的食物,通过干农活、打猎或是在村子间奔波卖货,他们已经有了足够的运动量。

如今,我们中的许多人每天吃三顿肉,以及食用含有防腐剂和其他化学物质的各种预制食品。我们喝着甜甜的软饮料、人工果汁或者酒精饮料。

我们搭乘汽车、摩托车或者公共汽车出行,我们每天的工作通常又是在电脑前坐上9个小时,如果感觉不舒服,会找医生开药,却没有想到改变自己的生活方式。

2020开始的疫情更让人们重新认识到了健康的重要性。科学运动、规律作息、营养饮食,都更有利于让我们有个强健的体魄。

Philipp创立的THANYAPURA塔亚普拉正是提供专业科学的运动指导和营养均衡的饮食的品牌。

 

A Balanced Mind

Huang Yueqin, Director of the Division of Social Psychiatry and Behavioral Medicine at Peking University’s Institute of Mental Health published a study which was funded by China’s National Health Commission and the Ministry of Science and Technology in 2019 which noted: “Rapid social change is likely to bring about a general increase in psychological pressure and stress.” 

北京大学心理健康研究所社会精神病学和行为医学研究室主任黄悦勤教授在2019年发表了一份由中国国家卫健委和科技部赞助的研究报告,指出:“快速的社会变革很可能导致心理压力的普遍增加”。

With all the pressure having to manage our daily lives, with millions of sensations hitting our brains, being all the time on our computers and mobile phones, being bombarded with negative and troubling information from all over the world, we are stressed and pressured, the fasted way to be un-balanced. All stress would be ok, if we would know how to balance the mind, how to take a time-out and focus on what is really important for us, on strengthening our self-confidence and self-recognition, decrease fears and anxieties, challenge our addictions, balance moods. Most people don’t know how to do balance themselves, they turn around like a ‘Hamster in the Wheel’.

我们的日常生活充满了压力,每天数之不尽的情绪起伏冲击着我们的大脑,世界各地席卷而来的信息时刻轰炸着我们,让我们喘不过气,甚至心灵失衡。

但是如果我们知道如何对负面信息按下停止键,如何平衡思想,专注于对我们而言真正重要的事情,加强自信和自我认知,减少恐惧和焦虑,就可以获得平衡的心灵。

很多人不知道如何平衡心灵,这会导致他们就像车轮里的仓鼠一样不断地转来转去。

现在经常说的“内卷”就是一种焦虑的体现。要打破这种无止境的“电影院效应”,我们需要努力使自己的精神处于一个平衡的状态,要“认识自己,与自己对话”,建立与自我的深度连接。

THANYAPURA塔亚普拉在建立之初,就致力于成为帮助人们重新找回平衡的休养地,更是让人们重新激活身体的充电站。

A Good Heart

A ‘Good Heart’ expresses, how we treat ourselves, other people and the world around us. My personal finding is, that we first of all must like ourselves. If we look into the mirror do we like who we see? Because, if we don’t, we will have difficulty to get along with others and in consequence they with us. Do we treat other people with a positive attitude and respect? Do we care about the well-being of animals, preserve nature and avoid using too much plastic and chemicals. These and many other points make us a special human being, and this is a feeling which makes us happy.  

“正念”表达的是我们如何对待自己,他人以及我们周围的世界。

首先我们必须接纳并喜欢自己。如果我们照镜子,会喜欢镜子中的自己吗?如果我们连自己都不喜欢,就很难与他人相处。

我们要问自己,是否用积极和尊重的态度对待他人?是否关爱动物,保护环境?是否减少塑料使用量,降低化学物质排放?诸如此类的善举有很多,做到这些所带来的美妙感觉会让我们感到无比幸福和快乐,也让我们成为一个特别有正念的人。

THANYAPURA塔亚普拉不仅是大量使用可降解、可循环材料的运动度假区,更是让人审视自己,找回正念,一个触及更优自我的出发地。

Thanyapura’s Purpose is: “We Optimize Your Life”. And what we mean by that is that we will help our guests and member to find their happiness, to focus on a healthier lifestyle, to take a time-out. Studies show, that more than 50% of the world population has at least one chronical disease, and 75% of all people who need medical attention do so because of self-inflicted reasons, all the result of an un-healthy lifestyle. Staying with us will help to re-focus, re-priorities and re-energize body, mind and soul.

THANYAPURA塔亚普拉的品牌理念在于:我们优化你们的生活。这是指:我们将帮助我们的客人和员工专注于更健康的生活方式,找到他们各自的幸福。

研究表明,世界上超过50%的人口至少有一种慢性疾病,需要医疗护理的人中有 75% 是由于自身原因导致的,所有这些都是拜不健康的生活方式所赐。

让我们和THANYAPURA塔亚普拉一起,共同重新集中注意力、重新确定优先级并重新激发身体、思想和灵魂的活力,共同优化我们的生活吧!